Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana - Marriage Men Women & Householder
Human beings
must understand the purpose of human existence & goals of married life.From very ancient times the goals of human life
were defined as Dharma, Artha, Kama & Moksha.The first three are to be practiced in this life & if done successfully
will lead to moksha, which constitutes ultimate liberation of the soul or spirit from the cycles of rebirths through which
man must pass in order to purify himself from all evil before merging into cosmic soul.Only those Excellent men should be
sought for marriage those are of high birth , Understand the Purpose of Life & Marriage, Learned, with a good knowledge
of the world, eloquent in speech & doing the proper things at the proper times, energetic, skilled in many arts, possessed
of Great Pure mind, Ability of farseeing the future, full of perseverance, of a firm devotion to wife & goal of life(Moksha),
free from anger, affectionate to parents, social, free from all diseases & strong, not addicted to drinking or bad habits,
showing love towards his wife, posses of independent livelihood, free from envy , suspicion & good in sexual union.
CONDUCT OF MARRIED WOMAN:
First of all, a married woman must win the confidence of her husband. She should strive to keep her husband
free from worries and take charge of internal and external arrangements. She should control the expenses also. Keeping the
house clean, worshipping in the temple of the house at right time, proper regard for the in-laws etc. are also the duties
of a married woman.She should not accompany the wretched or immoral women. She should cook the food, which her husband likes
most. She should also serve her husband herself more and more rather than asking the servants to do so. She should check the
squandering husband wisely. She should not attend social functions without her husband`s permission. She should retire every
night to bed after her husband but wake up earlier.When the husband is angry, she should not tempt to argue with him. She
should maintain proper secrecy regarding the wealth and private things of the family. She should welcome and treat her husband`s
friends properly. When the husband is setting out for a long journey, she should wear only those insignia that show good fortune.
During all the period of her husband`s migration, a married woman must live a plain life under the supervision of her mother
and father-in-law.
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